People in this culture tend to spend a lot of time and money on education in order to get a good job. I think it’s even more important to spend time educating yourself on who you are and what type of life partner you’d like to have. When you marry someone, you live with them every single day, so they impact you even more than your job does. Debra Fileta in her book True Love Dates talks about starting with getting to know yourself. Who are you? What do you like and not like? Are you an introvert, extrovert or somewhere in the middle? Do you have religious beliefs? If so, what are they? What are your core values? How important is family to you? Do you want to have children? What’s important to you? Are you a night owl or a morning person? What do you like to do? How do you spend your time? All of these things are going to impact you in marriage.
What type of partner do you want? It’s best to find someone who is more similar to you. Opposites tend to attract, but then they often aren’t the most satisfied couples because their differences start to annoy each other a lot. It’s important to have some of the main things in common like religious beliefs, values, whether or not you want to have children. Even if you find someone similar to you, you’re still going to have differences, but it’s important to try to see how your differences complement each other or are beautiful together. One of my favorite visuals of this is from the book by Paul David Tripp called What Did You Expect? He talks about how the moon in the sky is so beautiful because of its contrasting colors with the sky. Happy partner picking and getting to know yourself more! Let me know if you have any questions because I’d love to help!